Chinese New Year is ALWAYS a time
to clean up your life and that means your
internal spiritual temple as well as your outer temple- your home.
I started getting it together weeks ago and I’ll
make sure it’s all done by February 4th.
This year, the cleansing process is even
more important as we are in a Yang Water Dragon year.
The emphasis of the year 2012, a Water
Dragon year is to gather the spiritual benefits
and clean out all of the cob webs in our personal
as well as our spiritual lives.
The rituals done this time of year are most
important for your health, wealth and happiness.
In China, you will see statues of Guan Yin, the
Goddess of Compassion, riding on a Water Dragon.
This might give us a clue to be more
compassionate in all that we do.
It’s important to clean out your closets of anything
you no longer use, get rid of all the clutter in
and around your house!

You also have to make sure that before February 4th,
you clean and renew all of the spiritual things in your life.
If you have spiritual statues, paintings,
amulets, books, and ritual objects, no matter what tradition, they all
need to be cleaned, polished, dusted off and
made ready for the year of the Water Dragon.
I will light incense around my house at every door.
This is a way to feed the spirit and I always make sure
that there are flowers in my house with fresh clean water.
I also put the traditional Chinese Red Welcome mats
at my door. Internal cleansing of the body is very
important at this time. I do skin brushing every morning
to cleanse and stimulate my skin which is one of the
largest detox organs in the body.
It’s important to do your own personal cleansing,
inside and out, at this time. Deep cleanse the surface
of your body. If you have access to hot tubs, saunas,
mineral or herbal bathes, this is the time to soak,
scrub and sweat out as much of the impurities as possible.
Be very clean on February 4th
(that’s the day ).
Wear only fresh clothes on February 3rd and 4th.
(The Dragon starts emerging in the evening of February 3rd).

I am definitely going to the Russian
Sauna to absorb the heat, jump in the cold plunges
and clean my body of toxins! I am even doing the
7 day Core Restore Program to clean out my liver,
remove all additional toxins from my diet and lifestyle.
This will REMOVE, RESTORE, and REVITALIZE
my entire system! It’s a way of gently cleansing my
body inside and out, and it only takes 7 days!

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I have a personal practice that is based on
ancient tradition that involves early morning meditations,
cleansing the house using epsom salts.
You can get the formula on my You Tube channel

Make this upcoming week a time of purifying your
body, mind and spirit. Eating pure foods at this time
is also VERY important. The Taoist Chinese say your
whole year’s fortune can depend on how you
enter the new year.
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I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness
Dr. Wu Dhi

Larry called me on the evening
of the Chinese New Year and told
me he was suffering big time and
couldn’t understand why.
He was brought up with loving parents,
went to good schools, always had a job,
a nice home and yet he suffered every
day from lack of ‘something.’
Like so many of us these days when the
world is in turmoil, we feel out of sorts
for no apparent reason. It’s not really
depression, sadness or melancholia.
It’s more like a feeling of emptiness or
maybe feeling some sort of limitations.
I explained to Larry that all of the
limitations we have are our own. We block ourselves from
being successful, healthy and happy and blame
others for our misfortune. That’s when he started to sob,
saying that others seemed to always block his success,
how he never really got a chance, how others beat him out
of jobs, money and opportunities. He was really suffering.
My Master told me long ago that pain is mandatory,
but suffering was optional. If you hit your thumb with a
hammer it is painful, but if you are still complaining about
it years later- that’s suffering.
Causes of human suffering from the
Buddhist perspectives are like immense traps
known as The Three Poisons.
They are Worry, Struggle and Blame.

1.We worry about what will happen, how we will
survive and will we have what we need?

2.We struggle and push others out of our way,
thinking that there will not be enough for us.

3.We blame others for our shortcomings; these are
all poisons that keep us trapped like rats in a cage.

These poisons are the source of our
unquenchable thirst and the root cause
of all of our harmful illusions, keeping
one stuck in painful existence.
It’s time that you free yourself from
sickness, mentally, physical emotionally
and spiritually.
You can transform worry, struggle and
blame into Aim, Contribution and Participation
in a heart beat!
This technology is thousands of years old.
When I first learned this meditation,
I practiced morning, noon and
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I wish you the best in your Health, Wealth and Happiness

Dr. Wu Dhi

It’s just about 2012 and New Years Eve is upon us.
My office is only open for emergencies, stuff like back pain,
auto crashes and I can’t stand my relatives.
When things are slow at the office it gives me a little more
time to train and to catch up on my reading.

I read a report this morning on the latest findings on what
makes your belly grow the quickest and kills your
sexual appetite at the same time.

They claim that the foods that lead to long-term weight gain
are things that most of us in the good old USA have been eaten
on regular basis for years.
Most people out there don’t have a clue that these foods
will fatten them up like a stuffed goose in no time
They didn’t realize anything until one day the big belly just
seemed to appear out of nowhere and there love tool
just didn’t work like it used to.

Hear are a few of the culprits:

• French fries
• Potato chips
• Soda
• Sugar laced bottled fruit juices
• Most bottled ice teas
• Red meat
• Processed meats like hot dogs
• Fast foods

When you have these foods groups in your diet on a regular basis,
you’re going to be looking at a big fat belly sooner or later.

Belly fat is a real killer and will age you quicker than you could
imagine and kill your libido quicker than a New York second
and that’s really fast.

As we get older our organs have a tendency to prolapse because
of lack of proper exercise, gravity and the natural aging process
everything begins to sag.
The lungs and heart don’t have the elasticity they had in your
younger years and as they droop this affect the entire chest cavity.
The liver and spleen are affected and of course both the
small intestine and large intestine are affected.
Everything drops!

The next thing you know you have problems “DOWN THERE”
and your sex life is over.
The famous country and western singer Willie Nelson wrote
this poem on His 75th birthday on how he out- lived his sex organ.

“My nookie days are over,
my pilot light is out.

What used to be my sex appeal,
is now my waterspout.
Time was when, on its own accord,
from my trousers
it would spring.
But now I’ve got a full time job,

to find the firkin’ thing.
It used to be embarrassing,
the way it would behave.

For every single morning,
it would stand and watch me shave.
Now as old age approaches, 
it sure gives me the blues.

To see it hang its little head, 
and watch me tie my shoes!”

Yep, Willie is a country party kind of guy and misused his
health for years and is now in a pickle with his pickle.

You can avoid these problems and delay the aging process
by changing your diet, keeping up with a regular exercise
program and following the
Programs set forth by the ancients from China, Tibet
and India.
I have explored these teachings in depth for over 30 years
and have created the Recharging Qi gong Program to enhance
your health and wellbeing.
If you don’t have the program as yet,
what are you waiting for? Next Year?
Place your order now and begin the New Years right!

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I wish you the best in your Health, Wealth and Happiness

Dr. Wu Dhi

It’s the day after Christmas, the entire house is a mess rapping
paper balled up, presents still in boxes, your
in- laws are still in your spare bedroom
and the kids are out of school for more days then wish to count.

STRESS seems to be around every intersection you turn.

Everything may seem to be a little overwhelming and you are
stressed to the max.
We all know it’s going to keep on going strong for a few
more weeks, as we are getting ready for more merriment,
until the BIG bash on New Years Eve.

It’s a time to Paying Attention to your health as well.

I bet you didn’t know that December 26 is historically one of
the most dangerous days of the year.

This time of year is infamous for heart attacks, heart failures,
and strokes.
Don’t let holiday stress kick your butt.
We all want to keep our ticker ticking as long as possible
without any glitches and although the holidays are a time to
kick back, over eat and knock back several glasses of holiday cheer
that excessive drinking can cause irregular heartbeat
and it can up your odds for a stroke.

On Christmas Day, many people confuse shortness of breath or
chest pains with indigestion from drinking and overeating.
On most days you would play it safe and go to the hospital.
But it’s just a annoyance around the holidays so we wait
and that can be a your last mistake.

In Chinese Medicine there are some Symptoms of Heart Disease
to give you a heads up before anything ever happens-
things like vertical or tangential crease on earlobes,
Horizontal crease across the bridge of the nose,
deep narrow central crack on the tongue extending to the tip.

Hear are some tips to keep your heart healthy:
• Avoid Eating – high fat, high cholesterol foods
• Pass on caffeine
• No tobacco
• Lighten up on alcohol
• Sugar is a no, no!
• Butter, red meat, fried foods, soft drinks, spicy foods,
white flour all of these can add more stress to your heart .

Eat More – fiber, raw foods, fish, turkey, chicken, garlic, and
onions, and nuts.

Doing the right Exercise can keep your heart healthy
and strong for years and years.
That’s why I practice internal exercise like Qi Gong on a daily.

You can Turn your Stress into Power and easily extend your
life for years.
It’s your anti-aging formula to keep you healthy, strong and young.

Pick your program up today and you will feel the difference
within weeks.

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I wish you the best in your Health, Wealth and Happiness

Dr. Wu Dhi

How close are we really connected to each other?
Friday evening when the moon
was just about at its peak hours,
before the last lunar eclipse of 2011,
Anastasia’s little brother got into a bad
car accident and totaled the family car.

This was devastating to her family but the
ripples that it caused were enormous.
First of all it left the family with out a car and
extra expenses just before the holidays.
You can imagine that it is now much harder to get to work,
school and do the daily tasks for the whole family.

But here’s how the rippling effect
moved through the community:
Anastasia’s mother was an emotional wreck,
as she thought she may have lost her son,
the grandparents where shook up and Anastasia
was an emotional mess as well. The boy’s boss
had to work overtime and rearrange the schedules
of all of his other employees to cover for the time
he was in the hospital and his recovery.
School had to be put on hold during finals;
Anastasia had to leave work and had a hard
time being on time as the family transportation
was destroyed. Her boy friend was worried and
had digestive problems for the entire weekend
and her employer had to find extra help for the
holidays and the little brother went into a deep depression.

This is common in families when something goes a fluke.
It may happen in your life or in the lives of people you know.
It is part of life and lessons that we all have to learn
for our growth if we like it or not. We would all like
to be able to avoid such things as pain and suffering
but it is part of being a human and living on planet earth.
These lessons can drag you down or you can use the
energy of the moment to transform your life and
when dropped in a pile of manure, you come
out smelling like a rose.

You can change your stops into steps in a few
minutes and pull your self out of the muck and
mire by following these rules:

• Be grateful for what you have.

• Know that nothing is ever taken from you without
being replaced on a higher level.

• You can not attract more than you can handle

• Don’t allow anyone to lay a trip on you

I call these the rules of the game.
When you can live by these rules,
stress will not be an issue.
They are all in my book, “Turn Stress into Power”
The book is filled with meditations, exercises,
protections and stress relievers to keep you in
tip top shape no matter what happens in your life.
People have described the program as a way to steer
your life back into calm waters no matter how
big the storm gets.

Right now you can get the book and DVD sent to
you with a special offer attached-
Two-fers that’s right! Order the program now and
I’ll send you two of everything to give to a friend,
co-worker or loved one as a holiday gift.

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I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness

Dr Wu Dhi

PS.
You Can Turn your Stress into Power!

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Depressed and hurting, Daren came into
the office today suffering, and I mean
really suffering.
He had swollen ankles, diabetes, is
depressed all the time, a host of allergies
and he is at least 60 pounds over weight.

He is STRESSED!

Although he has a college education and
all of the advantages of being successful,
he is not working and has applied for Medicare.
He is stressed about his health, his money,
his family and relationships.
He is a shipwreck and going down fast and
is crying out for help with life rafts and other
ships all around him that he just can’t see.

One of my teachers once said to me,
“when taking birth in human form, pain is
mandatory, but suffering is optional.”

I suggested that he makes just one positive
change in his life to see what happens.
When you do that it’s just like pulling out the
Key stone of a building. Everything will shift.

It could be taking a favorite food out of his
diet, waking up an hour early, starting an
exercise program or only allowing yourself
to open the refrigerator 5 or 6 times a day.

Any change will work to start to unravel
the problems. You just need to start.

The first thing out of his mouth was,
“this is going to be really hard to do! You
know I live to eat, I am in too much pain to
exercise, and I have a hard time wakening up
in the morning.”
Daren has an excuse for everything, like many people do.
They suffer, worry, struggle and blame others
for their problems.

He asked me why he had to limit anything in
his life to make a change and asked for some
medicine, a pill, a shot or cream that would
help his situation.
Well Daren guess what? Until you decide to
take responsibility for your own health no
medicine will work.
You are just covering up your problems.

I gave him a universal secret to health, wealth and
happiness that I will share with you.
You don’t have to change a thing.
You can go on doing exactly what you have been
doing and every thing will move along as nature
has intended.

But we all come to planet earth to grow and learn lessons.
We can choose what lessons we want to learn by
choosing what we want to do and we will grow or
we can just sit there and the universe will choose the lesson for us.

We can exercise or get fat and put more strain on
our heart and maybe get a heart attach.
You can eat right and restrict unhealthy foods or
you can let the universe supply you with a
dis-ease to learn the lesson. We all have a choice and
we all get tests and lesions.

I suggested he repeats these simple words
when he wakes up and before he goes to sleep:

* I choose health over sickness
* I choose prosperity over poverty
* I choose happiness over depression
* I choose friendship over loneliness
* I choose service over disservice

Isn’t it time to change your worry, struggle and
blame into – Aim, Contribution and Participation?

Over the last 35 years I have worked to make
changes in my life and to change my old habits
and old negative programming into a positive healthy
and a very productive life. You can do the same in
much less time with better results by following the
exercises and meditations I have spelled out for you in
the Turn Stress Into Power program.
Get it now before the holidays, share it with your
friends and family and rid yourself of useless suffering,
pain and stress.

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I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness

Dr. Wu Dhi

It’s starting to get cold up north and the
snow birds are flocking up to Florida once again.
Today I was busy with colds, flu’s, back aches,
sinus congestion, knee pain, and allergies.
When people come down to South Florida for the
first few weeks, no matter if they’re coming from
Europe or the northern states, when they get down
here they change their diet, their dress, and they are
exposed to all of the flowering plants and trees of
South Florida. That’s what keeps me busy all day.

My office is busy all day with people from all
over the world trying to balance their health issues.
The type of medicine that I practice is far different
than the traditional doctors. I never try to kill a disease,
a germ, or a virus. My practice is based on strengthening
the immune system. If you have a strong immune system,
you don’t get sick – you stay young, strong and vibrant!

Western medicine is built around the germ theory.
Trying to kill that germ, trying to kill the cancer,
trying to kill the bacteria or whatever the disease is.
To me there is really no logic in that medicine.
We’ve all been exposed to colds and flu’s before
and if we are emotionally upset, stressed out, or not
in balance, we end up with a disease. If you’re happy,
in love and filled with joy, even if you’re exposed to
the worst colds and flu’s, you usually don’t get it!

When you’re stressed out – that’s the time that
Dis-ease hits you. You’re not yourself.
You don’t have your usual strengths and power
that you usually have -you’re just out of balance!
And the slightest breeze or an unwanted sneeze can
make you sick. I have had patients report to me that
by doing the exercises and the meditations in the
Turn Stress into Power program, they eliminated
all of their colds, flu’s and fevers the entire winter!

This information is worth 1,000 flu shots!
Stay healthy all winter and order the
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I wish you the best in your
Health, Wealth and Happiness

Dr. Wu Dhi

It’s been raining in Miami for almost two weeks.
One day they said that we got as much as 10 inches of rain.
This is the end of the rainy season and we still got the
hurricane threats for the next three weeks. I live on one
of the barrier islands and if we get a storm, I have to evacuate.
Anyway, last week I was sleeping and I heard a strange
sound in my house. I couldn’t imagine what it was!
At first I thought that it was one of the stray cats that
got in or possibly a burglar.

I jumped out of bed, grabbed
my Samurai sword and went into the living room, and
much to my surprise, the roof was leaking! It was making
a clatter as well as a mess. I immediately put pots and pans
and anything that I had under all of the drips
and called the roofer.
He came out the next day and patched the roof. Then it took another

3 weeks before the dry wall guy came and the painter guy to fix the inside.

I spent all of last weekend finally cleaning the entire house.
Sunday I finally hung my artwork back on the walls and with a
feeling of completion I went to sleep.

Early Monday morning around 5 am I heard a giant crash,
I jumped out of my bed, ran into the living room and noticed
that 20% of the ceiling had fallen down and the house was
leaking again. I was not a happy camper.
In fact, I was beside myself!
I couldn’t wait until 8 o’clock to call the roofer and
report my findings. He told me that he couldn’t come
out for two weeks as he was on a job and there was
nothing you could do. That morning I went to the beach
and trained for 2 ½ hours to rebalance my energy. Once I
realized that the circumstances were out of my control, I
moved everything out of the living room, again. I covered the
floor with plastic, bought a de-humidifier, put buckets down
and moved to a nice hotel on the beach. It’s beautiful here, I’m
less than 100 feet from the ocean and I train in the morning.

“And when it rains on your parade, look up rather than down.
Without the rain, there would be no rainbow.”
Author Unknown

In fact, I’m training more than usual, taking my vitamins, and
doing my meditations. This doesn’t change the situation with my
roof or my house, but I’m calm, relaxed and the situation that was
out of control is now being handeld by the roofer and the insurance company.
So I’ve taken a very stressful situation and turned it around to make
my health and well-being much more powerful.
I’ve turned my STRESS into POWER. Life is
always changing and we always have things that are out of control.
Nature causes floods, fires cause destruction and natural disasters
happen to all of us at one point or another in our life.

Students and patients often ask me, “How can I control my life, so
situations like this don’t cause me excess stress and ill health?”
I’ve been teaching these precious exercises to thousands of students
and patients throughout the years to teach them how to turn their
STRESS into POWER and now I have put together a program called
Turn Stress into Power!

It includes a book with all of these exercises, meditations and
ways to distress your body, mind and spirit and made a DVD to
show you exactly how to do the program. Grab your copy today at

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I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness

Dr. Wu Dhi

Two years ago, after a tough workout,
I woke up with a painful knot in the
middle of my back.

As you can imagine I was in pain!
The knot made it hard to move,
breathe and turning from side to side
was nearly imposable.
I’m not used to getting muscle pain since
I always stretch
and relax my muscles in my body and mind.

But now and then, I pull something out of place,
I get a pinched muscle.
The first thing I do when
this happens is stretch using a
‘Ma roller’ then a ‘Styrofoam roller’
to break up the pressure and release the tension.

Then I get some acupuncture.

After that I may get some deep tissue work done.

And then I rub in a Chinese herbal formula in the
painful area.

Usually this is enough to relieve the painful area.
But not always.
Some knots are stubborn -
And take days to shake loose.
This is what happens to many, many people.
They have knots in their shoulders, back and legs
and they got these knots while working out and this
can put you out for days or ever weeks.
I can tell you from experience this is no fun.

A few weeks ago, after a strong workout when I was in Georgia,
I got a killer knot in my back.
I haven’t had anything like it in years.
The good news is I removed it without
massage, acupuncture, herbs or a ‘Styrofoam roller.’

It went away easily and effortlessly. And FAST.

The system I used works for pain, knots and tight muscles
in the neck, shoulders and back.
It also helps remove pain from most areas of the body.

It’s an incredibly simple method that requires no real
effort on your part. You got the knot by exerting too
much effort – so it makes sense that unwinding the
knot will require a method that reverses this process.

In this program “Eliminate Back Pain”

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you will learn how to
Eliminate and prevent back as well as shoulder pain forever.

Get rid of your pain today – whether it’s in your back,
shoulders or head – you may find the exercise method
to be a miracle worker in your home and office.

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I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness

Dr. Wu Dhi

P.S. You no longer have to suffer from pain,
you can be free without
any harmful drugs.

Attention:
Communication skills affect
all of us in all walks of life.
“Communications is the response you get.”
The information presented here will be most valuable
in changing your Karma.

Last Wednesday I shared some
real gems on communication skills
and I promised you that I would share
with you the “The Ten Linguistic Viruses.”
It is from an article written by,
Matthew Budd, M.D., and Larry Rothstein, Ed.D.
I always keep my promises.

Before I give you the goods, I have
observed from my students and patients
some gems in regards to communications.
When a student tells me that he his going
to do something and doesn’t do it, it causes
more havoc in their life than one could ever imagine.
Here is an example: I’ve known John for years,
every time I see him he says,
“Dr. Wu I am going to meet you on the
beach in the morning to train will you
call me in the morning?”

So for a few weeks I did call John early
in the morning to remind him but he always
has an excuse on why he can’t go.
Sometimes it’s about the wind being too
strong, other times it’s about no wind at
all and it’s too still for him. What makes
me laugh is the evening calls are all about
being ‘gung ho’ to train and get in shape
but the morning calls are all about excuses.
I don’t know if John really gets what he is
doing to himself; it’s costly in more ways
than one could imagine.
When you say you’re going to do something,
you are giving your word, your promise to perform.
When you don’t do it you are not only breaking
your word and your promise, you are
causing a break in your integrity.

Our body and mind likes to be congruent,
so when you are continually breaking the
commitment and promise of doing what you
say you will do then your body and mind will
naturally still strive to keep you honest.

Listed below, are the
“Ten Linguistic Viruses.”
They attack relationships, alter
the structures
of the individuals in them and cause
dissatisfaction, bad moods and
even ill health. Learning what they are
will allow you to listen to
others more effectively, and heal them
as well as yourself.

1. NOT MAKING REQUESTS.

There may be something that you
want or need from someone else, but
you don’t make a request. Why is this?
You may have a reluctance or
fear about asking others for something:
They could say no and cause
you to feel rejected. In fact, a no to a
request is just that, no to
the action of requesting, not a rejection
of the person.

Another reason people don’t make
requests is that they’re afraid
others will think they’re incompetent.
But making a request is not an
admission of weakness. The president of
the United States or the CEO
of a large corporation makes a staggering
number of requests each day.
In fact, one aspect of power is the capacity
to make powerful requests.

Still another reason people don’t make
requests is that they think a
request is an imposition. They forget that
one way that people achieve
meaning in their lives is in fulfilling the
requests of others.
A request simply invites another person to
participate in your life.
Take this as a way to honor others,
not to burden them.

2. LIVING WITH UN-COMMUNICATED EXPECTATIONS.

A common form of “not requesting”
occurs when an individual lives in
a world of expectations that are really
just unexpressed requests.

Often we have private conversations
with ourselves about what others
should and should not do. But we never
make overt requests of these
people. Subsequently, when they don’t do
what we expect, we’re
disappointed, resentful and angry.

The solution is to translate “shoulds”
into clear requests.
The benefit will be less resentment,
less anger, less guilt and more
satisfying relationships.

3. MAKING UNCLEAR REQUESTS.

A husband may say to his wife,
“I want you to support my career.”
Can you see that the husband may have a
different picture than the wife of
what “support” looks like?

What kind of support? When? All of
this information is missing. Later
on, when a minor problem arises, the
maker of the unclear request is
likely to say, “You promised to support
my career, but you didn’t!”

To coordinate your life successfully
with others, your requests must
be precise and detailed. You’re not
insulting the listener, you’re
setting up the possibility for mutual satisfaction.
It’s not enough
that you understand; the person receiving the
request must share your
understanding.

4. NOT OBSERVING THE MOOD OF YOUR REQUESTS

The mood of your utterance, as
much as your words, affects the
listener. If you’re demanding, people
might decline your requests
because they see you as arrogant and
righteous, or they might make
promises to you out of intimidation, not choice.

My high school algebra teacher
always made requests in the tone and
mood of demands. Students rarely declined
his requests, but acted
resentfully when they tried to do
what he had asked.

A suggestion: Observe the mood
produced in the listener of your
request; adjust your mood to produce
the “listening” you want.

5. PROMISING EVEN WHEN YOU
AREN’T CLEAR WHAT WAS REQUESTED.

Committing yourself when you aren’t
clear about what you’ve committed
to is foolish. Sometimes a person thinks
he knows what’s being asked
of him, so he begins an activity, such as
making a meal. But as he
goes along, his lack of clarity is revealed.
He becomes confused.
What did she really want?
What if I’m doing it wrong?

If you’re not sure what the requester
wants, clarify it with him or
her. You won’t look stupid. Rather,
you’ll be building an identity of
being committed to fulfilling his or her request.

6. NOT DECLINING REQUESTS.

Some of us say yes to every request.
We’ve been trained to please
other people, and this is made manifest
in our compliance. The problem
with this belief is that it’s destructive
for both you and others.

The yes sayers’ are often overloaded
with promises to keep. The result
is a perpetual fear of failure, which
prompted the compliance in the
first place. This vicious cycle generates
anxiety, exhaustion and
burnout.

Things aren’t much better for the people
receiving the yes sayers’
promises. They never know which
promises will be fulfilled and which
ones are in jeopardy. Over time, people
become distrustful of the yes
sayer. They think, “You just never can
be sure about him; he’s not
sincere.”

An inability to say no is not a problem
of articulation or diction,
but of an embodied tendency to have
to say yes, to be “nice” and not
to upset others. Learning to say no
requires practice for those yes
sayers who find it difficult.

7. BREAKING PROMISES WITHOUT
TAKING CARE: UNDERMINING TRUST.

When you make a promise, you’re building
expectations that you will
take action. If the promise is broken, the
person will begin to lose
trust in you and feel betrayed.

We are all human and cannot know the future.
In the process of
fulfilling a promise, things may happen that
keep you from completion.

If you simply ignore your promise, you’re
consciously betraying your
word and not taking care of the other party.
In contrast, if you
contact the requester, describe the present
problems that are keeping
you from fulfilling your promise, apologize
for the broken promise,
offer to make a new promise in a time frame
that you can guarantee and
assist with the cleaning up of any
mess that you produced.

8. TREATING ASSESSMENTS AS FACTS.

There is no truth to statements of judgment.
You can provide evidence
for what you say, but that still doesn’t
make it the truth. If we
treat assessments as truth, conflict arises.

People who hold their assessments as the
truth are generally rigid or
arrogant. They cannot stand diversity and
become angry at
differences. These people are a pain to be
around and are themselves
uneasy.

9.MAKING ASSESSMENTS
WITHOUT RIGOROUS GROUNDING.

Even though your judgments
aren’t the truth, you can make them with
rigorous “grounding” – that is, you
can say what you say based on
evidence.

People who make assessments
without rigor are viewed as flaky and full
of opinions that change like the weather.
They aren’t taken seriously
and they often suffer from insecurity and
low self-esteem. Gossip is
an especially harmful kind of assessment,
which lacks rigor and
purpose. Gossips get a false sense
of power from this activity, but
underneath they remain insecure and uneasy.

Connect your declarations with
possible plans for action for which you
are accountable, preferably to someone else.

10.MAKING FANTASY
AFFIRMATIONS AND DECLARATIONS.

When you make a fantasy affirmation
or declaration, you assume that it
will happen by itself. An example
would be declaring that you would
like to start a restaurant, even though
you don’t know anything about
cooking or how to run a business.

By contrast, a realistic affirmation or
declaration pictures a reality
that does not yet exist, but is attainable
through a series of
reasonable steps.

The 10 Linguistic Viruses not only create
ineffectiveness and friction
between people, but also produce negative
mood states, which, in turn,
threaten your well-being and health.
For instance, people who never
make requests usually don’t get what they
want in life and are often
disappointed and stuck. Such people may
have secret expectations of
others, which they never express. This also
leads to disappointment
and anger and resentment.

Inertia and anger are both negative mood
states that produce bodily changes in the
muscles, circulation, heart
and brain. People who can’t decline requests
also place their health
in jeopardy. They are often overburdened
and become exhausted, burned
out and depressed.

If language is the foundation upon which
human life is built, on which
we construct our human interactions and
even our notion of self, then
competence in language will bring you more
satisfaction, joy and
effectiveness in living.
My work with thousands of patients bears
this out. When people become aware
of their behavior in the
linguistic domain, they achieve greater
effectiveness, greater
satisfaction and a better mood.

I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness

Dr. Wu Dhi

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