Whenever Billy gets close to scoring,
the game is over before it even starts.
Now he stays away from sexual encounters as
he is embarrassed and within minutes of getting
excited he blows his goo. He told me that sometimes
he looses it even before intercourse.
This can happen to anyone, regardless of age.
It affects sex life big time and the overall
satisfaction of the partners as well.
According to western medicine, premature ejaculation
is due to a heightened sensitivity to touch which
results in quick ejaculation and thus sex can’t be
continued for long.
The causes for premature ejaculation can be:
• Emotional aspects
• Stress
• Mental instability
• Depression
• Blood
• Excess Medicines or drugs
• Over drink Alcohol
Most men experience premature ejaculation at
some point in their lives. It becomes a serious
health condition only if it persists over a period of
time and may be a precursor to impotency.
Most cases of premature ejaculation remain
undiagnosed and untreated because of the stigma
associated with this condition. ?? ?
Current evidence supports an average intra-vaginal
ejaculation potential time of six and a half minutes in
18-30 year olds. If it’s below this time, this is
considered premature ejaculation
Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) see’s Premature Ejaculation
most commonly caused by a Kidney disorder.
There are many other patterns associated with this disorder
but most commonly have an underlying kidney deficiency.
Kidney deficiency with Liver Qi Stagnation:
Kidney is deficient in general, plus emotional factors
stagnate the Liver, like anger. This can lead to heat which forces
an already weak Ming Men Fire, (“The Door of Life”) It’s located
just beneath the two kidneys, and exactly opposite the navel, and
it is associated with the water element. These people are generally
depressed, have a bitter taste in the mouth, dry throat, and blurred vision.
Chinese Herbal Formula: see your Chinese herbalist
Kidney Yin deficiency with Fire Rising:
Excessive amounts of sexual activity, which leads to
this condition of premature ejaculation.
There are general symptoms of hot feet, night sweats,
red cheeks, mild anxiety, and low back ache.
Kidney Qi deficiency:
This type of premature ejaculation revolves around fatigue.
Although there is also low libido, when this individual can
achieve an erection it will not last long and will experience
premature ejaculation. The body will show signs of poor energy,
low back ache, dribbling urine or frequent urination, urination
at night, weak knees low sex drive and possible sense of cold,
especially the feet.
Fear/Shock injure Kidney:
Premature ejaculation occurring after a traumatic event in ones life.
There is a sudden feeling of fear or fright, which changes the
behavior of the individual. There also may be insomnia, fear of
crowds or similar uneasy feelings.
What can one do to hold on to your goodies:
• The Dear Exercise
• Chinese sexual weight lifting
• Deep thrill exercise
• Sexual male massage
• Sexual enhancement diet
• Sexual Qi Gong exercises
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When I was just 17 years old
I met a girl and I fell head-over-
heals for her. At that time she was
just 15 and I couldn’t wait to take
her out on a date. So I borrowed my
Dads car and headed over to see
her and meet the parents. I guess
it was no surprise when her mother
said she wasn’t going anywhere with a
teenager with a car and raging hormones.
I was disappointed but there was no way
I was giving up.
It turned out that her mother was a Yoga
instructor and taught classes every week.
Although I didn’t have a clue what yoga
was at that time, I went to her classes and
said I loved it and wanted to come to more
classes. It was great! I sat as close to my
sweetie as I could possibility get and rolled,
stretched, bent over and laid with my eyes
closed and my heart beating for the entire class.
After I became a regular Yogie fan her
mother trusted us to go out and pick up
some dessert and bring it back to the family.
At last we had an hour alone.
I drove to the
restaurant as fast as I could go, pick up
the order, park in a dark street and make
out for ½ hour and drive back to her
parents’ house as quick as possible.
That was it! I was hooked on Yoga and
never missed a class. In fact I often
stopped over to ask her mother questions
about the practices and got to spend some
more time with my sweetie.
My entire body mind and spirit was focused
on being at their house and the yoga was
the key to unlocking what I wanted.
Doing a practice has rewards way beyond
our imagination. When I was a youngen it
didn’t matter what the motivation was.
I had a goal and nothing was going to
stand in my way.
That was a long time ago but the lesson
learned still applies today. If you want
something no matter how impossible it
may seem, if you are motivated in body,
mind and spirit- YOU WILL GET IT!
Over the last 40 or 50 years I have studied
many aspects of health, both Eastern and Western.
They include internal and external exercises,
many systems of yoga, meditation, Qi Gong,
Shen Gong and Nei Gong and many longevity
practices you may not be aware of that are
still practiced in Europe today.
These practices involve living life in a
responsible way and living life to its fullest
but integrating the reality of the world you
live in by taking a mindful look around you.
In Buddhism they have a formula to live life
to it’s fullest, it’s called:
The Noble Eightfold Path
1. Right View
2. Right Intention
3. Right Speech
4. Right Action
5. Right Livelihood
6. Right Effort
7. Right Mindfulness
8. Right Concentration
It is a practical guideline to ethical and
mental development with the goal of freeing
the individual from attachments and
delusions; and it finally leads to
understanding the truth about all things.
Great emphasis is put on the practical aspect,
because it is only through practice that one
can attain a higher level of being and
reach Enlightenment.
1. Right View
To see and to understand things as they
really are. Right view is the intellectual aspect
of wisdom. It means to see things through,
to grasp the impermanent and imperfect
nature of worldly objects and ideas, and to
understand the law of karma.
2. Right Intention
The mental energy that controls our actions,
it can be described best as commitment to
ethical and mental self-improvement.
3. Right Speech
Proper conduct is viewed as a guideline to
proper control of your life. The importance
of speech is obvious: words can break or
save lives, make enemies or friends,
start war or create peace.
4. Right Action
Healthy actions lead to sound states of mind.
Again, the principle is explained in terms of
abstinence: right action means
A. To abstain from harming any living being,
especially to abstain from taking life
(including suicide) and doing harm
intentionally or delinquently.
B. To abstain from taking what is not given,
which includes stealing, robbery, fraud,
deceitfulness, and dishonesty.
C. To abstain from sexual misconduct.
Positively formulated, right action means
to act kindly and compassionately, to be
honest, to respect the belongings of others,
and to keep sexual relationships harmless to others.
5. Right Livelihood
Right livelihood means that one should
earn one’s living in a righteous way and
that wealth should be gained legally and peacefully.
6. Right Effort
Without effort, which is in itself an act of
will, nothing can be achieved. Mental
energy is the force behind right effort.
The same type of energy that fuels desire,
envy, aggression, and violence can on the
other side fuel self-discipline, honesty,
benevolence, and kindness.
7. Right Mindfulness
It is the mental ability to see things as
they are, with clear consciousness.
Right mindfulness is anchored in clear
perception and it penetrates impressions
without getting carried away.
8. Right Concentration
Right Concentration on wholesome
thoughts and actions to develop the
right concentration is through the
practice of meditation. The meditating
mind focuses on a selected object, then
sustains concentration, and finally intensifies
concentration step by step.
Through this practice it becomes natural
to apply raised levels of concentration in
everyday situations.
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Some people, unfortunately,
will not make it in because
they’re too slow to act.
Don’t be one of them.
What makes you Happy?
Is it your health, relationships,
wealth, power or position?
A group of researchers came up
with a list of 10 of the most important
things in life that create happiness.
I discovered the article in
Reader’s Digest and began to think
a lot of what makes us happy.
Here is what they said:
“Over the last 70 years researchers
have been probing happy and unhappy
people, and they’re finally zeroing in on
the factors that make a difference.
What follows are the top ten. By the
way, the experts think your genes
account for about 50 percent of your
disposition; the other nine factors
make up the rest.”
1. Wealth-
Money can buy a degree
of happiness. But once you can afford
to feed, clothe and house yourself, each
extra dollar makes less and less difference.
Once your basic needs are met, money
only seems to boost happiness if you
have more than your friends,
neighbors and colleagues.
2. Desire-
How much stuff do
you need to feel good? In the 1980s,
political scientist Alex Michalos,
professor emeritus at the University
of Northern British Columbia in Prince George,
asked 18,000 college students in 39
countries to rate their happiness on a
numeric scale. Then he asked them how
close they were to having all they wanted.
He found that the people whose
aspirations — not just for money, but for
friends, family, job, health, the works — soared
furthest beyond what they already had,
tended to be less happy than those who
perceived a smaller gap. Indeed, the size of
the gap predicted happiness about five times
better than income alone.
This “aspiration gap” might explain why
most people fail to get much happier as
their salaries rise. Instead of satisfying
our desires, most of us merely want more.
The good life remained always just out of reach.
3. Intelligence-
Are smart people happier?
Intelligence has no effect. Some researchers
speculate that brighter people could have higher
expectations and thus be dissatisfied with
anything less than the highest achievements.
“Or maybe scoring high on an IQ test — which
means you know a lot of vocabulary and can
rotate things in your mind — doesn’t have
a lot to do with your ability to get along
well with people,” says Ed Diener, a
psychologist at the University of Illinois at
Urbana-Champaign. He speculates that
“social intelligence” could be the real
key to happiness.
4. Genetics-
David Lykken, a behavioral
geneticist and professor emeritus of
psychology at the University of Minnesota,
Minneapolis, believes our feeling of well-being
at any moment is determined half by what is
going on in our lives at that time and half by
a “set point” of happiness, which is up
to 90 percent genetically determined and
to which we eventually return after
dramatic events, our happiness set point is
largely determined by our genes.
They have found that genetic variation
accounted for between 44 and 55 percent
of the difference in happiness levels.
Neither income, marital status, religion
nor education accounted for any more
than about 3 percent.
5. Beauty-
Good-looking people really
are happier. The most attractive faces are
highly symmetrical, and there is evidence
that symmetry reflects good genes and a
healthy immune system. Beautiful people
are happier because they are healthier.
6. Friendship-
family and friends because
of the social support that arises from the
importance of the extended family.
7. Marriage-
Married people are consistently
happier than singletons. Happy people are
more likely to get married and then stay married.
But anyone can improve his or her mood by
getting married. The effect begins about a
year before the “happy day” and lasts for at
least a year afterward.
8. Faith-
Karl Marx was fairly close
to the mark when he described
religion as an opiate for the masses.
Of the dozens of studies that have
looked at religion and happiness,
the vast majority has found a positive link.
They even live longer.
9. Charity-
Several studies have found
a link between happiness and altruistic
behavior. But as with many behavioral
traits, it is not always clear whether
doing good makes you feel good, or
whether happy people are more likely
to be altruistic.
10. Age-
Why are old people happier?
Some scientists suggest older people may
expect life to be harder and learn to live
with it, or they’re more realistic about
their goals, only setting ones that
they know they can achieve. With
time running out, older people have
learned to focus on things that make
them happy and let go of those that don’t.
“When I was 5 years old, my mother always
told me that happiness was the key to life.
When I went to school, they asked me what
I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down
‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the
assignment, and I told them they didn’t
understand life.” -John Lennon
Not everyone is born with a sunny
disposition, but experts agree we can
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I have spent many years in
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I practice every day and do what I
say and say what I do. It’s no accident
that I am healthy and happy. I practice
and train to be there and stay
there and so can you.
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Some people, unfortunately, will not make
it in because they’re too slow to act.
Don’t be one of them.
I was at a party this past weekend
with a group of people from Michigan.
I really didn’t know anyone, but as the
night went on the conversation turned to ‘who do we know.’
It turned out that many years ago, Frank
who is one of my close friends did some work
with a very beautiful model that he hasn’t seen
or heard of since the late sixties where he had
the opportunity to work with us on a TV show.
Anyway, he had to travel up north to the frozen
land of my youth and ran into that woman.
Marnie Lane, the model went on to say what a
pleasure it was to work with my friend and
what a ‘Mensch’ he was. By the way if you don’t know
what a ‘mensch’ is, it’s a Yiddish word that means
“a person of integrity.” A ‘mensch’ is someone who is
responsible, has a sense of right and wrong and is the
sort of person other people look up to.
You see, your reputation follows you around forever.
No matter if it is good or bad, it will stick just like glue.
That’s why your word and your integrity is so important.
“A life lived with integrity – even if it lacks
the trappings of fame and fortune is a
shinning star in whose light others
may follow in the years to come.”
-Denis Waitley
When you keep your word with
yourself and others your health
will improve as well as your mental capacity.
Neale Donald Walsch wrote in Conversations with God,
The Five Levels of Truth-Telling:
1. You tell the truth to yourself about yourself.
2. Tell the truth to yourself about another.
3. You tell the truth about yourself to another.
4. You tell your truth about another to that other.
5. You tell the truth to everyone about everything.
When these five levels of truth are applied to
your life you will start to be more congruent in
what you say and what you do. You become in
line with the universal principles and you do what
you say and say what you’ll do.
So many people forget the laws of the universe and
say that they are going to do something and never
seem to get around to doing it. This causes a break
in their integrity and before you know it their own
subconscious mind can’t and doesn’t even trust them.
The break in their integrity will eventually cause
problems in both the body and mind.
This isn’t the way you want to go.
When you Say what you’ll do something “Just DO IT!!”
Every week I teach a meditation class in my office
and I offer these teachings to people. Students are
starting to make major shifts in their life! Their health
is better, they’re more congruent with their speech,
and they are more honest with themselves. People are
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and any form of old depression is vanishing. Every
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It’s just about 2012 and New Years Eve is upon us.
My office is only open for emergencies, stuff like back pain,
auto crashes and I can’t stand my relatives.
When things are slow at the office it gives me a little more
time to train and to catch up on my reading.
I read a report this morning on the latest findings on what
makes your belly grow the quickest and kills your
sexual appetite at the same time.
They claim that the foods that lead to long-term weight gain
are things that most of us in the good old USA have been eaten
on regular basis for years.
Most people out there don’t have a clue that these foods
will fatten them up like a stuffed goose in no time
They didn’t realize anything until one day the big belly just
seemed to appear out of nowhere and there love tool
just didn’t work like it used to.
Hear are a few of the culprits:
• French fries
• Potato chips
• Soda
• Sugar laced bottled fruit juices
• Most bottled ice teas
• Red meat
• Processed meats like hot dogs
• Fast foods
When you have these foods groups in your diet on a regular basis,
you’re going to be looking at a big fat belly sooner or later.
Belly fat is a real killer and will age you quicker than you could
imagine and kill your libido quicker than a New York second
and that’s really fast.
As we get older our organs have a tendency to prolapse because
of lack of proper exercise, gravity and the natural aging process
everything begins to sag.
The lungs and heart don’t have the elasticity they had in your
younger years and as they droop this affect the entire chest cavity.
The liver and spleen are affected and of course both the
small intestine and large intestine are affected.
Everything drops!
The next thing you know you have problems “DOWN THERE”
and your sex life is over.
The famous country and western singer Willie Nelson wrote
this poem on His 75th birthday on how he out- lived his sex organ.
“My nookie days are over, my pilot light is out.
What used to be my sex appeal, is now my waterspout.
Time was when, on its own accord, from my trousers
it would spring. But now I’ve got a full time job,
to find the firkin’ thing.
It used to be embarrassing, the way it would behave.
For every single morning, it would stand and watch me shave.
Now as old age approaches, it sure gives me the blues.
To see it hang its little head, and watch me tie my shoes!”
Yep, Willie is a country party kind of guy and misused his
health for years and is now in a pickle with his pickle.
You can avoid these problems and delay the aging process
by changing your diet, keeping up with a regular exercise
program and following the
Programs set forth by the ancients from China, Tibet
and India.
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It’s 4 o’clock in the morning and
it’s pitch black outside.
It’s so dark; I can’t even see my
hand in front of my face.
It’s just about the new moon and
although it’s been cloudy and rainy in
South Florida, I can still see some of the
twinkling stars over the deep blue sea.
The reason I’m up so early and on
the beach is I want to get in my Qi Gong
practice today before I travel up north for
the holiday fun – and you know it’s going to be
fun sitting by the fire bundled up being with
my family and friends.
My daughter- in- law Dana is
cooking this year and she is a great cook
and In my honor everything is going to
be organic.
My mouth is watering already and I’m looking
forward to all of the traditional Thanksgiving
treats and especially being with my close friends
and family.
Take the time today to write down
12 things that you are Thankful for,
12 things that you still want to accomplish this year
and 12 things that you will do to serve others.
Start the list today, as have it complete by the
New Moon on the 25th of November your intensions
will bring you what you want and what’s needed as
the moon grows full on December 10th,
the last full moon of the year.
Remember to be Thankful for everyone and everything
in your life.
Life is a series of lessons to be learned. Gratitude will bring
you through with love in your heart for everyone.
‘Every cloud has a silver lining.’
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Attention:
Communication skills affect
all of us in all walks of life.
“Communications is the response you get.”
The information presented here will be most valuable
in changing your Karma.
Last Wednesday I shared some
real gems on communication skills
and I promised you that I would share
with you the “The Ten Linguistic Viruses.”
It is from an article written by,
Matthew Budd, M.D., and Larry Rothstein, Ed.D.
I always keep my promises.
Before I give you the goods, I have
observed from my students and patients
some gems in regards to communications.
When a student tells me that he his going
to do something and doesn’t do it, it causes
more havoc in their life than one could ever imagine.
Here is an example: I’ve known John for years,
every time I see him he says,
“Dr. Wu I am going to meet you on the
beach in the morning to train will you
call me in the morning?”
So for a few weeks I did call John early
in the morning to remind him but he always
has an excuse on why he can’t go.
Sometimes it’s about the wind being too
strong, other times it’s about no wind at
all and it’s too still for him. What makes
me laugh is the evening calls are all about
being ‘gung ho’ to train and get in shape
but the morning calls are all about excuses.
I don’t know if John really gets what he is
doing to himself; it’s costly in more ways
than one could imagine.
When you say you’re going to do something,
you are giving your word, your promise to perform.
When you don’t do it you are not only breaking
your word and your promise, you are
causing a break in your integrity.
Our body and mind likes to be congruent,
so when you are continually breaking the
commitment and promise of doing what you
say you will do then your body and mind will
naturally still strive to keep you honest.
Listed below, are the
“Ten Linguistic Viruses.”
They attack relationships, alter
the structures
of the individuals in them and cause
dissatisfaction, bad moods and
even ill health. Learning what they are
will allow you to listen to
others more effectively, and heal them
as well as yourself.
1. NOT MAKING REQUESTS.
There may be something that you
want or need from someone else, but
you don’t make a request. Why is this?
You may have a reluctance or
fear about asking others for something:
They could say no and cause
you to feel rejected. In fact, a no to a
request is just that, no to
the action of requesting, not a rejection
of the person.
Another reason people don’t make
requests is that they’re afraid
others will think they’re incompetent.
But making a request is not an
admission of weakness. The president of
the United States or the CEO
of a large corporation makes a staggering
number of requests each day.
In fact, one aspect of power is the capacity
to make powerful requests.
Still another reason people don’t make
requests is that they think a
request is an imposition. They forget that
one way that people achieve
meaning in their lives is in fulfilling the
requests of others.
A request simply invites another person to
participate in your life.
Take this as a way to honor others,
not to burden them.
2. LIVING WITH UN-COMMUNICATED EXPECTATIONS.
A common form of “not requesting”
occurs when an individual lives in
a world of expectations that are really
just unexpressed requests.
Often we have private conversations
with ourselves about what others
should and should not do. But we never
make overt requests of these
people. Subsequently, when they don’t do
what we expect, we’re
disappointed, resentful and angry.
The solution is to translate “shoulds”
into clear requests.
The benefit will be less resentment,
less anger, less guilt and more
satisfying relationships.
3. MAKING UNCLEAR REQUESTS.
A husband may say to his wife,
“I want you to support my career.”
Can you see that the husband may have a
different picture than the wife of
what “support” looks like?
What kind of support? When? All of
this information is missing. Later
on, when a minor problem arises, the
maker of the unclear request is
likely to say, “You promised to support
my career, but you didn’t!”
To coordinate your life successfully
with others, your requests must
be precise and detailed. You’re not
insulting the listener, you’re
setting up the possibility for mutual satisfaction.
It’s not enough
that you understand; the person receiving the
request must share your
understanding.
4. NOT OBSERVING THE MOOD OF YOUR REQUESTS
The mood of your utterance, as
much as your words, affects the
listener. If you’re demanding, people
might decline your requests
because they see you as arrogant and
righteous, or they might make
promises to you out of intimidation, not choice.
My high school algebra teacher
always made requests in the tone and
mood of demands. Students rarely declined
his requests, but acted
resentfully when they tried to do
what he had asked.
A suggestion: Observe the mood
produced in the listener of your
request; adjust your mood to produce
the “listening” you want.
5. PROMISING EVEN WHEN YOU
AREN’T CLEAR WHAT WAS REQUESTED.
Committing yourself when you aren’t
clear about what you’ve committed
to is foolish. Sometimes a person thinks
he knows what’s being asked
of him, so he begins an activity, such as
making a meal. But as he
goes along, his lack of clarity is revealed.
He becomes confused.
What did she really want?
What if I’m doing it wrong?
If you’re not sure what the requester
wants, clarify it with him or
her. You won’t look stupid. Rather,
you’ll be building an identity of
being committed to fulfilling his or her request.
6. NOT DECLINING REQUESTS.
Some of us say yes to every request.
We’ve been trained to please
other people, and this is made manifest
in our compliance. The problem
with this belief is that it’s destructive
for both you and others.
The yes sayers’ are often overloaded
with promises to keep. The result
is a perpetual fear of failure, which
prompted the compliance in the
first place. This vicious cycle generates
anxiety, exhaustion and
burnout.
Things aren’t much better for the people
receiving the yes sayers’
promises. They never know which
promises will be fulfilled and which
ones are in jeopardy. Over time, people
become distrustful of the yes
sayer. They think, “You just never can
be sure about him; he’s not
sincere.”
An inability to say no is not a problem
of articulation or diction,
but of an embodied tendency to have
to say yes, to be “nice” and not
to upset others. Learning to say no
requires practice for those yes
sayers who find it difficult.
7. BREAKING PROMISES WITHOUT
TAKING CARE: UNDERMINING TRUST.
When you make a promise, you’re building
expectations that you will
take action. If the promise is broken, the
person will begin to lose
trust in you and feel betrayed.
We are all human and cannot know the future.
In the process of
fulfilling a promise, things may happen that
keep you from completion.
If you simply ignore your promise, you’re
consciously betraying your
word and not taking care of the other party.
In contrast, if you
contact the requester, describe the present
problems that are keeping
you from fulfilling your promise, apologize
for the broken promise,
offer to make a new promise in a time frame
that you can guarantee and
assist with the cleaning up of any
mess that you produced.
8. TREATING ASSESSMENTS AS FACTS.
There is no truth to statements of judgment.
You can provide evidence
for what you say, but that still doesn’t
make it the truth. If we
treat assessments as truth, conflict arises.
People who hold their assessments as the
truth are generally rigid or
arrogant. They cannot stand diversity and
become angry at
differences. These people are a pain to be
around and are themselves
uneasy.
9.MAKING ASSESSMENTS
WITHOUT RIGOROUS GROUNDING.
Even though your judgments
aren’t the truth, you can make them with
rigorous “grounding” – that is, you
can say what you say based on
evidence.
People who make assessments
without rigor are viewed as flaky and full
of opinions that change like the weather.
They aren’t taken seriously
and they often suffer from insecurity and
low self-esteem. Gossip is
an especially harmful kind of assessment,
which lacks rigor and
purpose. Gossips get a false sense
of power from this activity, but
underneath they remain insecure and uneasy.
Connect your declarations with
possible plans for action for which you
are accountable, preferably to someone else.
10.MAKING FANTASY
AFFIRMATIONS AND DECLARATIONS.
When you make a fantasy affirmation
or declaration, you assume that it
will happen by itself. An example
would be declaring that you would
like to start a restaurant, even though
you don’t know anything about
cooking or how to run a business.
By contrast, a realistic affirmation or
declaration pictures a reality
that does not yet exist, but is attainable
through a series of
reasonable steps.
The 10 Linguistic Viruses not only create
ineffectiveness and friction
between people, but also produce negative
mood states, which, in turn,
threaten your well-being and health.
For instance, people who never
make requests usually don’t get what they
want in life and are often
disappointed and stuck. Such people may
have secret expectations of
others, which they never express. This also
leads to disappointment
and anger and resentment.
Inertia and anger are both negative mood
states that produce bodily changes in the
muscles, circulation, heart
and brain. People who can’t decline requests
also place their health
in jeopardy. They are often overburdened
and become exhausted, burned
out and depressed.
If language is the foundation upon which
human life is built, on which
we construct our human interactions and
even our notion of self, then
competence in language will bring you more
satisfaction, joy and
effectiveness in living.
My work with thousands of patients bears
this out. When people become aware
of their behavior in the
linguistic domain, they achieve greater
effectiveness, greater
satisfaction and a better mood.
I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness
Dr. Wu Dhi
PS
Training your body, mind and spirit
will keep you mentally, physically
and spiritually awake.
This is what I teach to the members of the
Qi Gong Inner Circle.
Life is all about our communications, what we
say and how we use words determines our lives.
Our communication is who we really are and
it shows up in our health, moods,
wealth and happiness.
It’s said that our speech is the center
where karma is generated and where it can be modified.
Karma is based on language.
I came across this information based
on Fernando Flores’ work.
It was written by two of his students, Matthew Budd, M.D.,
and Larry Rothstein, Ed.D.
I found it of great value!
You Are What You Say!
Flores began his lecture with this
statement:
“In language we build our
own identities, our relationships
with others, the countries that we
live in, the companies we have and
the values that we hold dearly.
With language we generate life.
Without language we are mostly chimpanzees.”
According to Dr. Flores,
here are five kinds of linguistic “actions”
REQUESTS: A request is an
action that you take when you seek the
assistance of another in satisfying
an underlying concern that you
have. For example, “Please pick up
some flounder and broccoli at the
market for dinner tonight.”
PROMISES: A promise is what
you speak to indicate your commitment
to fulfilling what someone else has requested.
(“I will get the flounder
and broccoli.”) It implies that you
understand the request fully and
that you are competent and sincere
about fulfilling the request.
DECLARATIONS: A declaration
is an utterance in which someone
with the authority to do so brings
something into being that wasn’t there
before. Personal declarations such as
“I will lose 30 pounds by July
1st” have the power to shape our lives,
if followed by consistent
behavior.
ASSESSMENTS: An assessment is a
judgment that you make about the world
in the interest of taking some action.
For example, in the interest of going to
a ball game, I might make the assessment,
“It’s a beautiful
day,” in which no wind and a temperature
of 8o degrees are my
standards. On the other hand, in the
interest of going sailing, my
assessment, “It’s a beautiful day”
means that the wind is blowing, the
harder the better. Assessments are never the truth.
ASSERTIONS: An assertion is a
statement you make for which you are
willing to provide evidence.
For example, if I say it is 68 degrees in
this room, I’m willing to show
this to you on a thermometer. We live
by the social agreement that this device
reflects temperature. In
other words, a society builds certain ways
of establishing and
asserting common, often quantitative values.
These assertions live for
us as “facts” -They are either true or false.
In this Friday’s letter I will share with you
“The Ten Linguistic Viruses.”
Stay tuned. I’ll be sharing more about
communications and how it affects our lives
with the Qi Gong Inner Circle group.
If you haven’t become a member yet, join now at
www.Qigonginnercircle.com
I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness
Dr. Wu Dhi
PS.
Attention:
Soon I will be broadcasting the
Wednesday night meditation
class as a free bonus to all of you.
It will be at 7:00 pm EST.
To tune into the class, go to
www.Live.comf5.com/Drwudhi
I came across this story that Petey Parker wrote.
I don’t know who Petey is, he could secretly be
“Spider Man” as far as I know or just a dam good writer.
Petey, thanks for sharing this.
“A cab driver taught me a million
dollar lesson in customer satisfaction and
expectation. Motivational speakers charge
thousands of dollars to instruct his kind of
training to corporate executives and staff.
It cost me a $12 taxi ride.
I had flown into Dallas for the sole purpose of calling
a client. Time was the essence and my plan included a
quick turnaround trip from and back to the airport.
A spotless cab pulled up.
The driver rushed to open the passenger door for
me and made sure I was comfortably seated
before he closed the door.
As he got in the driver’s seat, he mentioned that
there was a folded Wall Street Journal
next to me for my use.
He then showed me several tapes and
asked me what type of music I would enjoy.
Well! I looked around for a “Candid Camera!”
Wouldn’t you? I could not believe the service
I was receiving!
I took the opportunity to say,
“Obviously you take great pride in your work.
You must have a story to tell.”
“You bet,” he replied,
“I used to be in Corporate America.
But I got tired of thinking my best would
never be good enough. I decided to find my
niche in life where I could feel proud of being
the best I could be.
I knew I would never be a rocket scientist,
but I love driving cars, being of service and
feeling like I have done a full day’s work and
done it well. I evaluated my personal assets
and… Wham! I became a cab driver.
One thing I know for sure, to be good in my
business I could simply just meet the expectations
of my passengers. But, to be GREAT in my
business, I have to EXCEED the customer’s
expectations! I like both the sound and the return
of being ‘great’ better than just getting by on ‘average’
Did I tip him big time?
You bet! Corporate America’s loss is
the traveling folk’s friend!”
Lessons to be learned here:
-Go an Extra Mile when providing any Service to others.
-There is no good or bad job –You can make any job good.
-Good service always brings good return.
“Imagine what a harmonious world it could be
if every single person, both young and old,
shared a little of what he is good at doing.”
~ Quincy Jones
We all strive to achieve personal success in our lives.
At times we forget how important service is to others —
Things like unselfishness, kindness and generosity;
deeds that give meaning to your lives and above all,
that sustain and honor the lives of others.
I have been teaching and working for my entire life to
help others achieve their goals no matter if it’s health,
or being all they can be.
I have worked with Master’s, Guru’s, Lamas,
Doctors and Coaches that have
devoted their lives to the service of others.
They all helped others to move beyond their own
self-imposed limitations to success.
The members of the Qi gong Inner Circle receive teachings every
month to enhance the quality of their lives.
Take the opportunity and become a member of this exclusive group today.
www.Qigonginnercircle.com
I wish you the best in your Health,
Wealth and Happiness
“A young widower, who loved his five year old
son very much, was away on business when bandits
came and burned down the whole village and took his
son away. When the man returned, he saw the ruins and
panicked. He took the burnt corpse of an infant and cried
uncontrollably. He organized a cremation ceremony,
collected the ashes and put them in a beautiful little bag
that he always kept with him.
Soon afterwards, his real son escaped from the bandits
and found his way home. He arrived at his father’s new
cottage at midnight and knocked at the door.
The father, still grieving asked: “Who is it?”
The child answered, it is me Papa, open the door!”
But in his agitated state of mind, convinced his son
was dead, the father thought that some young boy was
making fun of him. He shouted: “Go away” and
continued to cry. After some time, the child left.
Father and son never saw each other again.
After this story, the Buddha said, “Sometime,
somewhere, you take something to be the truth.
If you cling to it so much, even when the truth comes
in person and knocks on your door, you will not open it.”
I gave a lecture last week to a group of people at the gym;
most of them work out 5 days a week and look good on the
outside, but are starting to get health problems like heartburn,
aches, diabetes and sexual dysfunctions.
I explained the longevity benefits of doing Qi Gong to
them, and how it would balance out their workout,
improve their sexual power health, and slow down the
aging process.
Arthur stood up and said,” I don’t get it? I workout
everyday at the gym, run 4 miles a day 5 days a week
and do 10 miles on the weekend, I eat well and I feel great!
What will Qi gong do for me– I am in great shape?”
Well Artthur, I did the same program for years
with my friend Gary. He was my workout partner
and never learned the internal arts of Qi Gong or
meditation. He said it was too slow for him and he
needs the adrenal rush of a heavy workout.
Gary wishes he had followed my example and
learned the softer style of Qi Gong years ago.
Although the physical workout of running and
weight training is good you need a balance.
There is an old Taoist saying:
“If you do External Exercises, you need to do
Internal Exercises, but if you do Internal Exercises
you don’t have to do External Exercises.”
When we only do sports, aerobic and weight training,
we create too much heat in our bodies and overheat
the internal organs. After awhile, the organs start to
dry out and later feel like a plum that was left in the
sun for weeks– it turns into a prune!
The same thing happens to us with constant overheating
and aging, you can see it on a person’s face –the wrinkles
are the pruning effect. You can delay the aging process and
re-dehydrate the organs by doing Qi Gong.
I told Arthur it’s time to get on a program because the
universe is knocking on your door. I know he heard
what I said and acted on it.
He placed an order for both Flying Crane Qi Gong
and the Recharging Qi Gong program that night.
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